In the Christian blogosphere, people tend to blog mini Bible studies or explain concepts as if it were a class. I have no problem with that, it’s just not what I do here. Especially lately and with this post – as by putting this out there I’m making myself vulnerable to be picked apart and denounced. But I do it so I can hear from you, as what I’m posting is pretty experimental and I don’t claim to have all the answers.
When my wife and I were dating she worked out of town every other week for 8 days straight. We had limited cell phone contact (once a day for 5 minutes or so) and we were very much so in love, so I wrote her six page letters twice those weeks. Pure sap. Just oozing with it. And she ate ’em up.
We haven’t been married long, but long enough that we aren’t in that honeymoon phase anymore. I tend to only write letters now when I hurt her. We of course love each other, but it’s not so urgent and in your face. We’re used to each other.
When it comes to Christianity, we spend a lot of time trying to keep people in that honeymoon phase with Jesus. I’d go as far as suggesting this is partially behind Sunday morning sermons, gobs of Christian books and weekend retreats or conferences. We want people to re-acquire that burning fire they once had with Jesus.
There’s a great line in song by Earthsuit “youth camp junkies don’t get enough to make the buzz last.” We try to get people high on Jesus and to be honeymooners again.
This may sound like total heresy – but what if this is a misguided goal?
“What?! I’m not supposed to be crazy in love with Jesus all the time? Shouldn’t I just be mad with him all the time?”
(I’m already envisioning my comments, and they’re not good. I haven’t heard the term sacreligious in a while.)
I’m wondering if maybe our love for him is to be more like love for a husband or wife – where it’s okay to not be burning with heated passion all the time, but we have a love that is more permeated through the whole heart.
I work in a field where burn out is high – it’s unrealistic that I’ll still be a counselor in 20 years. One of the main reasons cited is simply going too hard. Lots of people enter the field wide-eyed and ready to change the world. Those “types” are of the first to be bitter and to leave.
So maybe we need to stop expecting Christians to be running around on fire all the time, and maybe we need to not perpetuate this idea so some people can be honest. Many may be afraid to admit they’ve lost that red hot drive and fear admitting as it could imply losing God and his (salvation) blessing too.
Give it to me straight. Though Jesus refers to us as his bride, is this where the parallels to marriage don’t apply?